Changes Pt II
By · CommentsOkay, today I am going to start off by butchering a famous quote. If you know the correct quote, good for you! You should get this even more! Here goes: “The only life not worth living is the unexamined life”. (I know. That’s not right, but you get the idea).
To continue from yesterday, I was talking about when our fear shifts from a protection mechanism to something that keeps us from moving forward and achieving the things we really want to achieve in our lives. That seems to happen and we don’t even know it. I think that is because we leave fear unexamined.
What if we were trained ourselves to recognize and examine our fears? But how can we do that? I think the first step is creating an awareness. Like I said, we don’t even realize that it is happening, so how can we create an awareness. So if I were to devise a process just off the cuff like this, I would say the first step would be to look to the past. Try to recognize times in your past when your fear was a protection mechanism and when it was holding you back. This may take some time, but hey, you have the rest of your life to do this! (Don’t take that as my approval to put off this process until later, do it now!) The next step would be to recognize it when it is happening in the moment. Don’t feel bad if you still follow the same old pattern. We are working on creating awareness. Once you really get the wareness, notice the situation and think about other ways you want to handle things or what you might want to do. Once you have a good awareness, you will be able to be more deliberate about your choices and not let fear rule you!
Have a great day! I will talk to you again tomorrow!
Tom Maher, CPCC, ACC
Endless Possibilities Coaching and Speaking, LLC
www.EPCoachTom.com
Coaching for Musicians, Actors, Comics and Models
Tom@EPCoachTom.com
Changes
By · CommentsI think, today, I will talk a little bit about changes. I would also like to encourage you to start a dialogue in the comments section so we can get some cool ideas on changes. The past 3 years have had plenty of changes for me, so I figured this might be a good topic.
Some people don’t seem to mind change, while others claim that they hate changes. I know in my previous jobs, I have expressed a dislike for changes. I find it interesting because I was reading something recently, (I know! ME?!? READING?? Hard to imagine, huh), and it was saying that we are constantly in a state of change. We are always in the midst of change. If that is true, wouldn’t it be to our advantage to learn to embrace and even love change? What if we were able to see change as an advantage? I think that many times, we see it as a disadvantage or at the very least, the unknown.
I think part of it is that the potential for change invites uncertainty and a general lack of clarity. Interestingly, whenever it comes to the unknown, we tend to focus on fear. We could choose to focus on many different outcomes and possibilities, either positive or negative, but we tend to default towards fear. While I am not a huge fan of fear, it certainly has its’ purpose and can be useful. Its’ origins are usually a protection mechanism. Our ancestors learned to fear larger, predatory animals. If they never had this fear instilled in them, none of us might be around today. It gets dangerous when we allow the fear to move beyond protecting us from danger to preventing us from taking a chance where we could be a huge success. Granted, there is also the chance to fail, but it keeps us from huge successes.
Hmmmm, I like where this is going. Maybe I will continue here tomorrow!
Tom Maher, CPCC, ACC
Endless Possibilities Coaching and Speaking, LLC
www.EPCoachTom.com
Coaching for Musicians, Actors, Comics and Models
Tom@EPCoachTom.com
Perseverance
By · CommentsWow! Here it is, less than a half hour before midnight on day nine of the Ultimate Blog Challenge and again, I feel like I have nothing to blog about, but I really don’t want to miss a day of posting. Then it occurred to me, perhaps perseverance is a great topic to blog about today.
I feel like I have no topic. I feel like I have nothing, yet I want to stay in the Challenge, (I won’t get kicked out of the challenge for missing days, but I just want to stay on top of it). So today, I am pushing through. Today, I am staying focused on my goal of one post per day for the month. Will I miss any? Possibly, but I really hope not. This post is all about not letting that happen. It is about sticking to it even though I feel like I have nothing to blog about and time is quickly running out. It would be easy to throw in the towel for several reasons. But, like coaching, it is all about what I really want. Do I want to let it go or am I willing to do whatever it takes to make happen what I want to happen.
I feel I should mention, too, that regardless of whether I make my goal or miss it, one thing that is vitally important is that I do not judge myself. People tend to judge themselves negatively and far too harshly. My new personal goal is being kind to myself, (among other goals)!
So how can you push through? How can you keep yourself from self-judgment? How can you be kind to yourself? Have you even considered any of this? Just think about it. Try it on for a few days!
I will talk to you again tomorrow!
Tom Maher, CPCC, ACC
Endless Possibilities Coaching and Speaking, LLC
www.EPCoachTom.com
Coaching for Musicians, Actors, Comics and Models
Tom@EPCoachTom.com
